The ways of exercising violence can be very subtle, almost imperceptible and can harm your emotional, mental and physical health. We tell you what are the ways in which someone can exercise violence; make sure you don’t practice them or allow them to be applied to you.
WAYS TO EXERCISE VIOLENCE
The jealous competitor. He always tries to be above women by questioning everything they say, thus provoking continuous discussions in an attempt to take control and demonstrate his superiority.
The volcano. It is passive-aggressive, deceptively quiet, but about to erupt deadly. He keeps everything, he never says what he feels. If he is sad or upset you won’t know, but in the meantime he keeps an exhaustive mental record of everything, and when he gets full and can’t take it anymore, he explodes.
The know-it-all. He is arrogant and presumptuous, he is sure that he has all the answers. He feels that he is smarter than the others, that his opinions and moral convictions are the only ones that are valid and those that everyone should adopt.
The liar. It is usually seductive, manipulative and unfaithful. He is always very flattering and very courteous. Never trust what you say. It is dedicated to feeding your ego. But beware, it has a unique ability to change the meaning of your words, turn an argument and use it against you.
The obsessive of control. Furious and despotic, he spends all his time controlling you by telling you what you have to do and how you have to do it. He will intimidate you with his anger and wrath, at the point, he can even be aggressive at times.
The meddler. It is boggy and traitorous. Try to manipulate any situation and even yourself to take advantage and get you to do things your way, whether you like it or not. He is nothing diplomatic and clings decisively to his views.
The victim. It is so self-destructive that it looks black. Always see the downside of things and expect the worst. He sees himself as a helpless victim who can do nothing to change his situation. Blames others for what happens to him.
The Scarecrow. It is weak and without initiative. It is not proactive. Unable to make a decision on any matter and is dragged down by the opinion of the people. Live in fear and you will never create any conflict or vindicate yourself or anyone else.
The narcissist. Egocentric, his motto is: me, me, me, me and me. His concern is himself. He is the center of the universe and he expects you to consider him that way. The only thing that matters to you about you is what affects him or has something to do with him.
The emotional freezer. It is cold and shows no emotion. He reveals very little of himself and is a man of very few words. So you never know what he thinks or really feels. He is not, at all, a person who initiates the conversations.
The sociopath. This is the most toxic and dangerous type. It tends to be disorganized. Some of its particular features are: loquacity and superficial charm, feeling of self-worth, pathological lie, among others. They are very upset people who can cause great harm or even threaten life.
A hope
It is important that the person who identifies that he is chained in a violent relationship knows that there is a way out. But it is necessary that you recognize that, like anyone, you have weaknesses and strengths and that it requires taking responsibility for working on your own self-esteem, that is, valuing the set of bodily, mental and spiritual traits that make up your personality. For this you need:
- Accept what is.
- Learn to set limits; a border that marks how far someone allows into their emotional territory and that also limits their actions in the emotional aspect of others.
- Change habits that hurt you a lot.
- Learning to value yourself is never too late.
- Find the reasons to feel valuable and also the spaces to be respected and valued.
There are therapies and reflection or self-help groups that can accompany this process. Although you will never become perfect, it is important to renew and repair yourself to achieve true acceptance and improvement.