Children constantly watch adults and imitate their behavior to learn how to live in the world. If they show stability, he will generate it too
By Mayra Martínez
By deciding to have a child, you become a role model, not only in thinking but also in feeling and acting. Your child should live in an environment that provides security to strengthen his self-esteem.
When they are confident as a couple that they have each other to become strong, support, understand and feel loved despite the bad times, they achieve the desired stability. It is your son who discovers his mistakes and reveals them spontaneously and naturally. It is up to you that he is accepted into your group of friends and with your teachers.
Before you act, ask yourself how you want your little one to behave with others. It is never too late to rectify: to achieve this you must be yourself, have the humility to recognize when you make a mistake, approach your child, apologize and explain the reason for the behavior and why it should not be repeated by him. As dads in daily life, they show the little one how to be with himself and with others.
HOW TO ACHIEVE BALANCE AS A COUPLE?
All human beings perform in different areas: personal, family, professional and social. Balance is achieved when we strive day by day, developing various tasks. A couple acts as a team and achieves its stability when each person that integrates it is able to live with the defects of the other. Parents with a positive relationship are a potential source for their child to be objectively directed and oriented toward developing their skills, correcting their mistakes, and strengthening their weaknesses.
MAIN CAUSES OF INSTABILITY IN THE COUPLE
When everyday problems generate anguish, stress, helplessness and frustration, in many cases such feelings fall on the beings we love, causing instability and conflict …
Does any situation sound familiar to you?
• Involve third parties.
•Lack of communication.
• Lack of sensitivity to the needs of the couple (food, clothing, room, distraction, affection, recognition, empathy, listening and spirituality).
• Lack of support in a moment of stress, anguish or joy.
• Adaptation to changes, new lifestyles or crisis.
• Sexual problems or infidelity.
• Physical and psychological violence.
• Relief of frustrations caused in other areas (such as work).
• Attitude towards economic problems.
•Unemployment.
• Death of a loved one.
• Little participation in responsibility
maternal or paternal and within the home.
• Loss of group of friends.
• Do not share a common goal between the members of the couple.
IN A COUPLE THAT IS STABLE …
Two people who love each other and who have freely decided to stay together, out of love accompanied by commitment, seek the following actions. What do they carry out in your family?
• They accept their flaws.
• They share the satisfaction of their achievements.
• They fight together to grow.
• They want to become your child’s best example.
• They practice strong values such as justice, love, respect and dignity.
• They show love, respect and tolerance also towards their child.
• There are no offenses, assaults, or violence in the home.
• They share the responsibility of transmitting values to their child not only with words, but with constant example.
• They do not speak in front of their son of those subjects in which he cannot intervene.
• They argue in areas where your little one is not around.
• They do not ridicule the child when they make a mistake.
• They spend quality time with their child.