Discover how the middle child perceives the relationship he has within his family, how it can affect him and how it is convenient for you to treat him within the family dynamic so that he grows up secure in your love.
WHO ARE THE FAMOUS SANDWICH SONS?
This is how the boys and girls who occupy the place of birth in the middle of two brothers are popularly known.
It happens that in every family, each member occupies a special place although it is not perceived as such: just as mom and dad are the protectors and providers, the source of love, care and survival for the children; children also take a role:
- the eldest son takes a role of responsibility and example for his siblings.
- the smallest is the spoiled and the one who should be the most protected.
But what happens when a child is in the middle of that situation?
A sandwich child may come to perceive that he is no longer spoiled because someone smaller than him has already been born, also that he is not old enough to enjoy the worth of his older brother.
This situation could damage his self-esteem and security since the role he plays in his family is confusing for him: he lacks a fixed role, since they are “neither the big nor the small”.
Such perception can be real, because sometimes, by taking care of the youngest in the family and giving more responsibilities to the oldest, just being “the oldest”, mom and dad can neglect the needs of the middle child.
This reality causes the middle child to learn to solve himself, little by little, he becomes physical and emotional tools to solve his needs by himself. Therefore, they are children who tend to become more independent, self-sufficient and detached from their siblings.
This characteristic generates that people, his parents, perceive him as a child “not at all problematic”, sure of himself, mature. However, even if your personality and character have been molded under these learnings, it does not mean that you do not have the emotional need or that you are not waiting for your parents to satisfy them.
YOUR MIDDLE CHILD ALSO NEEDS YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION, JUST AS YOU GIVE IT TO HIS OTHER SIBLINGS.
If you have a small sandwich, we advise you to make it feel special by taking it to an activity that you like and in which you can stand out, so you can recognize your individuality without comparing yourself with your siblings.
Remember that each of your children needs to recognize their own gifts, abilities, talents… to know themselves to value themselves and have healthy self-esteem:
And when they are in the family, try to give him his place like his other two brothers: make him feel that he is a valuable and important child and that he is also the great love of your life.