Introvert or extrovert, are the ways your child is relating to people and the world; Understanding them will allow you to give them what they need to genuinely … shine as it is!
INTROVERTED
His interest is focused on his inner thoughts and feelings.
PROS
• They like to lead an orderly life and their feelings are often under their control.
• They are rarely aggressive and do not need others to be happy.
• They think before speaking and tend to be independent.
• Reflective and approach situations with planning.
• They place great value on trust; they are truthful.
• They like complex conversations about feelings and ideas.
• They tend to be fond of reading and the arts.
• They do not follow social conventions or stereotypes.
CONS
• They are individualistic, withdrawn, reserved and distant; they have few friends.
• Pessimistic, they distrust their impulses and take what happens to them very seriously.
• They are uncomfortable with strangers and do not like strong emotions.
• Your lack of interest in interacting with people is mistaken for contempt.
• They tend to be more sensitive, but do not complain openly easily, preferring to walk away in silence.
• They tend to be inflexible in their judgments and with their criteria: black or white.
• They are criticized and devalued; qualified as antisocial, shy, taciturn, presumptuous and arrogant.
BREEDING
• You have to understand them (not judge them) and authorize their withdrawal and / or need to return to tranquility.
• Encourage social activities that make him practice social skills without obfuscating him; without feeling threatened or criticized.
• Model it realistically, but optimistically, who uses to laugh at our problems, at ourselves; also that you have to enjoy life and every moment to the fullest.
• Through stories, real life cases, movies or family talks, give him emotional tools so that he is assertive when communicating his needs, making himself understood, respecting and listening, so that he is better prepared for school or work life and that the few close friends you have are honest, trustworthy, and durable.
• Due to the constant impairment towards introversion, it is possible to develop a negative attitude towards life. To prevent this from happening, strengthen your self-concept: continually remind her that introversion is a normal and healthy way of living if she is truly happy that way.
EXTROVERTS
Focused on social life, not on the internal.
PROS
• Constant search for action, new projects, strong emotions and changes.
• Optimistic, carefree and spread good humor.
• They have many friends.
• They communicate their ideas and emotions with ease. • Accepted, valued and rewarded; desired at work for their “leadership” and “gift of people”.
CONS
• They have little control over their emotions and impulses.
• They can be aggressive and intolerant of frustration.
• It costs them introspection; intolerant to the feeling of loneliness or isolation.
• They are dependent on their close people.
• Its moral is based on social convention; they are influenced by others.
• They are driven by monetary and materialistic interests.
• They may neglect your health.
• With a childish and egocentric tendency and a great content of unconscious egoism.
BREEDING
• Encourage activities that connect you with your body, that fraternize you with your loneliness, that help you delve deeper, carry out introspection: meditation, yoga, mindfulness, psychotherapy, or reading, among others.
• Balance your extracurricular activities so that your agenda has both group activities and some solo activities.
• Instruct him that he must heed his “true self” rather than the demands of society; that it is important to be authentic and not just overvalue social success.
• Teach by daily example a healthy and responsible way to be sociable: to control your emotions, be generous, empathetic and a good leader.