Arrogant or simply self-assured
First thing’s first. Many times, when we dislike someone, we confuse confidence with arrogance. Identify if this is your case.
Confident people know their values and abilities and do not need to minimize others to feel good about themselves. In any case, they judge themselves, but never based on someone else. Arrogance, on the other hand, is a kind of disguised insecurity, in which people compare themselves to others for fear of appearing incompetent. Thus, their mind classifies people into “more than me” and “less than me” and they tend to minimize people who challenge their ideas and points of view, as they have to show that they are intelligent and that they are right to the point. least provocation. They do not need to show talent but superiority.
How to spot an arrogant person
Too easy. Be guided by these signs:
They always seek to bring conversations to situations where they can talk about how they coped with a situation.
They are not at all interested in understanding ideas other than their own.
They give advice without you asking for it.
They tell you how you should see the world, and if you do not agree, they explain the same things to you in different words, as if you are not understanding anything.
They interrupt all the time to share their wisdom.
How to live with an arrogant person without going crazy trying
The best thing you can do is, instead of falling for the game and competing, become a role model of a confident person. Try answering in these ways:
Listen to what they are saying and then summarize it without emotion. At the end of the day, they just want to feel like you are listening to them. Then ask if they are willing to listen to your perspective. In this way you are making it clear that if they differ, it is not because you do not understand what they are saying, but because you have your own opinion.
Once they accept, don’t let them agree with you, because it will hardly happen. Even if they see that you are right, it will be difficult for them to accept it.
If you lose your patience, avoid judging them or calling them wrong, foolish, or ignorant. That will only give them more rope.
Cite your sources. If you can, say why you know what you know, whether you read it, took a class, or lived it. They will still argue, but at least you’ve already given a solid foundation to your argument.
Breathe and find a way to stay calm. Remember that you will surely face this situation again.