Violence generates violence. Children are very sensitive to aggression, especially if it is towards something important to him. So if you’ve ever used his toys to “make him see” what might happen to him if he doesn’t eat, see how he feels when his parents hit his toy in this situation.
HOW DOES A CHILD FEEL WHEN HIS PARENTS HIT HIS TOY TO MAKE HIM EAT?
Food & your child
It is essential for our existence, however in these times of abundance we do not eat anything, we can choose and reject some things that we do not like.
We also eat depending on the relationship we have with food, that is, we learned to relate to it with pleasure and love or, does it resolve our anguish? It scares us? Do we reject it? Etc.
At best it should be lived as a need that causes pleasure and pleasure, never as an obligation, much less use aggression for a child to eat, if a child grows up with aggression, he will be aggressive
Violence & your son
Although it may seem incredible, we do not know how to put what we feel into words, instead of saying: I am sad, we hide and deny our feelings, when they ask us what do you have? We answer: Nothing! We keep everything and when we least think, these repressed feelings emerge abruptly.
One of those manifestations is violence. Since I can’t tell you what I feel and I have so much frustration accumulated in my life, then I hit you, I scream at you, I control you, I mistreat you because I don’t know how to speak and therefore act differently.
His toys & your son
Hitting a toy or any valuable object of love for a child becomes direct aggression that causes pain and teaches how to respond with violence, as you learned, also toys are a very important part of development, they help to integrate the psyche, are a transition bridge between the child’s internal reality and the external reality.
It’s better if you do this …
- Do not force your children to eat, it can cause you anguish but it will not be long without asking for food, allow the need to arise in them, I assure you that one day without eating they will not pass. Get creative or look for alternatives, today there are a thousand ideas for children to eat.
- Teach them to talk about their feelings. How? Set the example!
- Respect their things, they are as important as yours, never abuse or hit their toys, for them they are an extension of love and of their psychic world.