Do you want to know for sure if your poor little angel has already taken the measurement? Read and answer this test honestly …
E l art of raising children has its secrets, because sometimes you do not think your little one can get to prove their attitudes, but be careful because you’re facing a teacher who is testing daily for see how far or not you can gain ground.
For this reason, we advise you to answer this test, so you will know if you are setting the correct limits or you have to pull the reins.
In the self-service store your son asks you to buy him a toy, but you tell him that at that moment he cannot buy it, he begins to throw a huge tantrum, to the extent that you can no longer continue shopping for trying to calm him down .
a) You look him in the eye and say, “I won’t buy you the toy you want, stop crying and help me keep buying,” while you try to distract him and give him a moment to calm down.
b) You start shouting things like: “stop crying, I won’t buy you anything!”, “keep quiet or I’ll spank you so you have reason to cry”.
c) You buy the toy immediately to avoid a tantrum and to let you buy in peace.
You are at home playing with your son when, suddenly, he decides that he wants to play with something else, but he does not make the slightest attempt to put away his toy and take out a new one:
a) You remind him that to get another one you must first save the one that is out of place. Making it clear that if you don’t, you won’t be able to play with anything else.
b) You try to pick up the pulled toys, but despite your anger and your screaming he ends up taking out the desired toy and you pick up the one he left lying.
c) You have never managed to lift anything, so in order not to have problems, you save them.
You are visiting a relative’s house, and your son does not want to eat what has been served, therefore you:
a) You ask him to try before saying no and warn him that if he does not eat at that time, he should wait until dinner.
b) You force him to eat between lawsuits, screams and tantrums.
c) You ask him to eat, but he has already made it clear that he does not like it and he will not, so you allow him to avoid embarrassing himself in front of people.
You are driving in the car, but your child does not want to sit in his place:
a) You ask him to stay in his chair and not get up because it is dangerous. But since he doesn’t obey you, you’re looking for a place to stop, sit him down and make it clear that they won’t go anywhere if he doesn’t stay seated.
b) You yell “Sit down!” but of course he doesn’t obey you, so you keep arguing, yelling and getting nothing, putting yourself at risk because neither he sits down nor you can concentrate to drive without distraction.
c) You tell him to sit down, you ask him to please pay attention to you as it is dangerous, but since he does not stop arguing and you only worry about arriving quickly warning him that it will be the last time he goes with you (which you will not comply with) ) .
He doesn’t want to go to school and then …
a ) You try to tickle him up and although he insists that he does not want to go, you make it clear that he will have to fulfill his obligation and in the afternoon you will allow him to take a nap if he is still tired.
b) You saw him half asleep, while he is crying and claiming that he does not want to go, but you tell him that he is going to like it or not and between screaming and crying you end up fixing it.
c) You try to dress him, but in truth he cries so much and is in the midst of such a tantrum, that you decide that for a day that he does not go to school nothing is going to happen, in the end he goes to preschool.
It is time to go to bed, but your little one is watching a program on television and does not want to go to bed at that time, so you:
a) You check how much time the program lacks and you let him finish watching it, clarifying that this time you will allow him to finish watching it if he goes to bed without protesting as soon as it ends because if not, next time he will not you will let him do it.
b) You start to argue with him so that he goes to bed because he has a schedule to do it and it is not time to continue watching TV, but since he ignores you, you turn off the TV and you do not give him an option, more than At that moment go to bed.
c) You let him finish that television program so that later he can go to bed, but when he finishes that program he already wants to see the next one and starts crying because you don’t allow it, so you let him fall asleep watching TV to be able to take him to bed without mishaps.
ANSWERS
5 or more answers A: CONGRATULATIONS !, you are trying to mark the limits very well, making it clear to your little one how far consequences his actions may have.
5 or more answers B: Take time out before acting with your little one, since you are not trying to set limits but IMPOSE them, and with this what happens in him is a greater rebellion, since he cannot understand why he has to do what you want and not what he prefers. We share these rules to set limits.
5 or more answers C: You’ve already got a beard, without a doubt! Your little one is the one in charge of his life and yours, which is alarming. But, calm down, everything has a remedy! I recommend that you start by making it clear who is the mother and who is the son. This you can do, being concrete in what you ask for and fulfilling what you say, if you have explained that he has to lift his toys, he must do it, there is no other option. Review these key phrases to ask your child what you want from him and pay attention to you!