In these times of change, many people may be asking questions such as where to live or what changes to make to feel more satisfaction in their daily lives.
“If Friday is a party and Monday is a funeral, there is something to look at. The idea is to go from having a stressful life to a life in which satisfaction reigns “, explains Ixi Ávila, coach of Emotional Intelligence and teacher of the SatisfACTION course. “Today many people live in a state of stress and anxiety, they suffer constantly, but feeling these emotions in a timely manner is natural and there are many tools that help us know how to carry them “Avila points out.
She sees it in her clients. For example, people who live waiting for the weekend to arrive because they do not like their work and want to change it, or they are not comfortable with their partner but they do not dare to leave it, or they want to start a personal project but they are blocked.
According to coach, you can train your mind and emotions to live a fulfilling life and share your tools to learn how to make better decisions.
“The objective of Emotional Intelligence coaching is not to control emotions, but to learn to train them and manage them when they appear”, clarifies.
Six expert tips to make better decisions
- Your values are your compass. It is proven that people who know their values take less time to make decisions and their decisions are more stable and less changeable. However, people who do not know their values tend to be more indecisive and change their mind more easily. Align your decisions with your values and you will feel better.
- Think out of the box. What beliefs are limiting you? Perhaps what you thought you should be does not have to be that way. Instead of considering choosing between ‘this option or the other’, look for creative ways to find the best combination of all the possibilities.
- Write it all down. It is very important to put decisions on paper so as not to get into loops of thought. The idea is not to make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. Writing will help you gain clarity and make better decisions.
- Try first. Before making a decisive decision, create a symbolic experience to see how you would feel. Before moving to the country, rent an airbnb for a couple of weeks and do the things you would do if you lived there.
- Commit 100%. Often when we make an important decision, we make the mistake of taking it by halves. Instead of giving my relationship a chance, I half-commit myself and then I am surprised when it doesn’t work out. Once you’ve made a choice, commit yourself fully even for a set period of time.
- Flip a coin. If none of the previous tips have helped you, flip a coin and before discovering that your heart has come out, it will tell you ‘Please make it that option’, it is there.
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