Being an ace of the most trivial conversations is not always related to your personality. Knowing what to do and what to say and what not will help you a lot more than you think to get back to face-to-face relationships back to the office.
It seems that the pandemic has normalized speak through screens, but with the end of summer getting closer and closer, and the return to the office almost imminent, you will have to get back into the habit of talk to coworkers, friends, bosses … Face to face.
This moment can be somewhat overwhelming, especially for those most introverts that they felt much better about the current situation than the need to have to have a few small conversations throughout the day, whether it was a crossing in an elevator or going for a coffee.
The good thing is that, according to John bowe oratory teacher, journalist and Author from I have something to say: master the art of public speaking in an era of disconnection, There are some tricks to make it look like you are a ace of public speaking and communication.
Pay attention to 7 most common mistakes and try to correct them if you feel identified:
1. Suppose nobody wants to talk to you
Surely you are not going to be the only shy person in the office, if you are worried about looking confident or natural, the best you can do is stop focusing on yourself and the shame you feel in that moment. Think that there are many more people like you who are experiencing the same situation.
2. Interrupt or intrude on a conversation
Careful with meddling in someone else’s conversation, sometimes it flows and can be done without problem, but it is best to wait with a safe distance and observe any non-verbal signal, as a look for the person or persons in question to introduce you to their conversation.
3. Start talking without having anything to say
If someone seems distant or lost in thought, plunging into their personal space with a simple “hello” may upset them.
Instead of throwing such an open first comment try to ask closed questions that lead to a conversation or sure answer. For example: “How about these first days back at the office?”
4. Address controversial issues
If you are talking to someone new, it is generally better not talking about important topics, unpleasant or that can lead to uncomfortable discussions.
If you consider that over time, you are ready to talk about certain topics in confidence, go ahead. But to start with, look for something else simple and close.
5. Be difficult to follow
Sometimes you have companions and companions of other parts of the world that speak different languages. Try to make the conversation experience enjoyable for everyone.
Seeks simplify all your verbal language, even with colleagues from other sections, to be as clear as possible.
6. Talking too much about yourself or the other person
Careful with focus conversations on a specific personEven if it is someone you know and know for sure that he loves to talk about himself. You don’t want it to look like a interrogation.
Instead, find a way to tell a story, offer an opinion … And if it doesn’t flow naturally, try to ask about the topics that interest you type: “Have you tried a new restaurant recently, what do you recommend?”
7. Wasting someone’s time
If you are talking to someone, Talk to him. Do not look at the ground, or at the mobile, you must be Present.
Think about how you would like to be treated at that moment and think that, in the future, it is possible that that relationship that begins with a coffee may turn into a friendship.
This article was published in Business Insider Spain by Irina Pérez.