We need other people to feel safe, your baby or child needs to feel safe all the more because he has just arrived in the world. Learn more about this important topic for your child’s emotional development.
We are social beings, we need other beings to form ourselves biologically, eat, think, etc. . We are more stable and feel calmer when we think that there are reliable people who take care of us.
When a baby is born, it needs all kinds of care to survive and the relationship it has with the person who cares for it becomes essential, it does not have to be the mother, it may be some other person with whom it develops a solid and special bond, a person to trust, however, in most cases, it is with the mother with whom this attachment develops, if this relationship develops so that the child feels secure, then he develops a secure attachment that will allow him develop with more confidence and face life’s challenges better.
SAFE WITH HIS PARENTS
Even in the safest of attachments, situations of separation arise, from leaving them for a while to bathe, taking time to breastfeed or bottle, going to work, etc. These kinds of frustrating events for the baby are experienced as losses, but over time he learns that Mom returns, and despite the discomfort, he builds confidence.
In moments of loss, grief is developed and the baby prepares to generate new emotional ties that will be very important for future relationships and emotional stability.
Every day I see moms very concerned about the separation with their children, do not be distressed, the separation is normal and expected, your child has to learn to relate to others one day, if everything goes well, he will no longer need you and will be able to use Himself, that is the most important thing to generate security, that one day you can separate without fear or guilt.
The ideal is to breastfeed, but emotionally speaking, you can bottle-feed him in a loving way, looking him in the eye, connecting with him, remember, the important thing is to establish a bond.
Do not mortify yourself when you leave it at times, you are helping it to develop thought and deal with frustration, one of the great problems of our time is that these generations do not know how to face pain and frustration, if you do not do it, life will and will be more difficult.
The anxiety is yours and you transmit it to them, insofar as you can separate from your baby without anxiety, you transmit that they can be in other places and with other people.
Say goodbye always! Imagine that you are somewhere and suddenly, the person you went with is no longer there, how scary! What happened? This is how children feel when you don’t say goodbye.