Screaming is not the best way to educate children; However, there are days when you surely lose control and you inadvertently do it. If this happens to you, keep reading.
WHY DO WE YELL AT OUR CHILDREN?
Many dads feel guilty for yelling at their children, as they are well aware that this is not the best way to educate and reprimand them; however, they often lose control and inadvertently do so. Quiet!
The screams have a background that is important to attend to so as not to fall into this type of practice. Remember that to make your child feel good, you must first feel good about yourself.
1. you are tired
Lack of sleep and rest are one of the main causes that trigger nervousness and irritability. Find ways that you and your partner have time to rest and charge energy. In this way, in a stressful situation you will be able to react more calmly, thus avoiding yelling at your child.
2. You have too demanding a life
Another reason you yell at your child, which shouldn’t be an excuse but to understand that you’re not a monster, is that life today is overly stressful. Time is not enough! However, to be happy you must learn to simplify your days. The reasons we scream are not children, but our own expectations or limits.
3. Your parents were yelling at you too
Perhaps another reason why you yell at your children is your own childhood. Not always, but in many cases, you also received, even from loving parents, screams, harsh words, blackmail, labels and even a hit. It is a behavior that you have internalized, it is part of your education and, in moments of tension, tiredness, anger or less rationality, you let yourself be carried away by an unconscious pattern.
4. He ignores me
Many parents explain that they scream because otherwise, the children ignore them and, therefore, even if they don’t like it, they are “forced” to do so. An attitude like this only means one thing: loss of control. The best thing, in this case, is always to remain calm and have patience, since otherwise the situation can turn violent and the child may do as you ask, but without understanding why you yell at him.
Close your eyes, breathe and be patient, your child will only be a child once.
Have you yelled at your son?