It is true that both women and men look for the company of mom a lot or ask her opinion repeatedly, but often this does not mean that they cannot mark their family territory. What to do when you or your partner have mastitis?
The so-called «mastitis» is characterized by the marked dependence of the adult towards the maternal figure. Psychology experts define it as emotional codependency in which neither the son or daughter nor the mother, are aware of the insane relationship they are forming since they are living in the insecurity of losing the affection of the other.
For this reason, it is difficult for them to make their decisions without consulting their mother, ignoring what she tells them, wanting to be in the mother’s niche most of the time and consequently, not taking responsibility for their own life or family.
In fact, women are more jealous of their home and therefore it is easier for them to set more limits on interference. Of course, there may also be women and men who believe that what their mother says is the law.
YOUR TASK: avoid complaining, especially, in front of children. They can suffer anxiety when they see that their mom and dad are having problems because of the grandmother, whom they also love very much, but at the same time, who is “damaging” their family;
they fail to understand the conflict and begin to create “bad family alliances”, which should not exist because it denies them the opportunity for a wide and healthy family network.
Whatever the situation, the important thing is to sit down as a couple to clarify the dilemmas, say what bothers them and how it makes them feel. Maybe your partner needs help, who to talk to or there is something that he cannot share with you; It is a good opportunity to ask her if she needs you to do more for her.