Having a big penis can be the dream of many, but it can also be the nightmare of many. And it is that, despite the hackneyed myth that “the bigger, the better” continues to swarm through our minds, there are times when it is not, size is not an advantage.
How long is a “normal” penis?
(When we say “normal” we refer to the statistical meanto the average penis size according to studies.)
15 centimeters? 16? These are often the answers I hear when I ask my patients what they think the average penis size is. And no, they are not those measurements. A macro review of 17 studies (with a total of 15,500 men) revealed that the average is lower than many think. Specifically:
- At rest: 9.16 centimeters.
- In erection: 13.12 centimeters.
The measurements obtained at the extremes, that is, the biggest and smallest penises with which they were found were 21.2 centimeters and 4.8 centimeters respectively.
But what is “too big”?
In addition to the obvious, of a penis whose size is well above that average that we mentioned, considering a very large penis sometimes has a bit of subjective perception. For example, some women may consider their partners to have huge penises because feel discomfort when having sex.
And while it is true that this may be so, that is to say, that the penis is effectively overwhelmingwe may also be facing a case of dyspareunia: for example, if during an encounter there was not a good arousal, the penetration may cause discomfort, which may lead us to anticipate that this may happen again on the following occasions (attributing it to the size of the penis).
The anticipation of pain It causes the muscles of the vagina to contract, which can cause pain during penetration. This opens a vicious circle that feeds on itself and that, no, is not caused by the size of the penis.
The truth is the vagina, when excited, dilatesthat is, it becomes more flexible and can be adapted to different sizes.
If your partner has a big penis…
If Samantha Jones herself, from sex in new york, surrendered to an XXL specimen, is it that all is lost? No, don’t worry, you don’t have to run away: there are a few things you can (that you can) do to make things go… smooth.
- Relax. This seems like a no-brainer, but in the case of encounters with members of size XXL it is especially important. If you are tense, or not relaxed at all, your muscles will be too, and therefore it will be more difficult. Sex is not a competition or a scoring event for the Olympics. So don’t worry, the thing is going to be enjoyed… and if not, then we’d better leave it.
- Excitement: you have to dedicate the necessary time (whatever each one needs) to the -badly called- preliminaries, to touching, licking, rubbing… whatever you like and that makes you reach a high level of excitement . Why? To begin with, because excitement is already pleasure, because the more excited you are, the more likely you are to have a powerful orgasm and because with excitement the vagina dilates, the muscles become more flexible (less rigid) and this, obviously, facilitates penetration.
- Lubrication: lack of lubrication can make penetration very uncomfortable and even do real damage. Good lubrication will make things easier (and you’ll feel more pleasure overall, too). Always remember to use water-based lubricants, specific for penetration, to avoid infections and condom breakage (oils, for example, can cause these little things, and better not, right).
- Be careful with the postures: to prevent the penetration from being too deep and causing you discomfort, it is best to opt for positions in which you have control over it. You on top, like an Amazon, or in the missionary position, placing a cushion or pillow in the lower area of your back, are positions that allow you to control the depth of penetration. However, in what is known as “doggy style” it is easier for him to hurt you because the penetration is deeper.
- Not all, thanks. If the penis is “very” long, it can cause discomfort, so one option that some opt for is to place a kind of “stop” on the penis to prevent it from “entering the whole”, such as a rolled bandage (be careful not to tighten it too much). penis). In addition, in some specialized stores they sell rings for the penis that can be used as a marker, as a “do not pass” line.
- Condom… your size. If the penis is very large, a standard condom can be annoying, but there is also a risk that it will break: when you squeeze it, it does not fit properly and there is air left that can end up breaking. In the market there are condoms of different sizes, look for the one that best fits you!
Be that as it may, always keep in mind that sex is not just penetration, there are a thousand wonderful things that we can do and that give us a lot of pleasure, so let’s not get obsessed with the size of the penis: you can have a great time in bed… whatever size it is.
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