Did you separate and already feel like having a partner or is there someone who makes butterflies flutter in your stomach, but … are you afraid of failing in love again, failing again as a couple? We share some ideas that can help you.
TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF FAILING IN LOVE AGAIN
Choose a partner out of desire, not necessity.
Avoid pairing because something is missing: money, honey, with whom to spend time … this leads you to want him to give you what you lack, but it is an unrealistic expectation because what will happen when he cannot give it to you? You will get angry and problems will come because you will feel unsatisfied. The best thing is that what you need you give yourself, from a house to love.
Make sure you are recovered from your previous dating relationship.
After a separation, it is best to take a moment of solitude, to reflect on what happened, on what you contributed so that the relationship did not work, work and overcome it. If you still feel bad when you are told about your ex or feel guilty or angry about the situation, you better keep working on your loss. Thus, you will be making sure to give the next person a healthy, stronger and better you. This will help you not to fail again, as you will know that you now have more resources to make a balanced and strong relationship.
Build your next relationship on passion, not obsession.
He thinks that the most beautiful thing about when two people are together as a couple is that they both decide it that way because they want it that way. There will be people that no matter how much you like or want them, they are not for you; Even if there is chemistry, it is best to let them go because either they are not compatible with your world or they may be toxic to your well-being. Choosing your new partner should come more from a reflection than from the satisfaction of your desires (especially because you have a child whose emotional well-being depends on you). Think about whether the person you like and whom you think of as a possible partner really brings positive things to your life and you could create a healthy relationship with him, or not.
Always seek loving communication
That your next couple relationship is based on a healthy interaction: respect, empathy, assertiveness, affection, friendship, communication, tranquility … If at any time you perceive or intuit that with this possible partner you will not have any of this, it is better not start something, nothing. Seek your well-being and peace. Listen to your body: your next partner should make you feel calm, not anxiety; accept yourself as you are not trying to change or impose yourself; and the same from you to him. It cuts the power struggles and always prefers a relationship in which both can accompany each other’s world and create one together.
You build your relationship, make it healthy or toxic; that’s why you have the power to never fail in love again. And of course you can! Be happy mom.