In Rwanda the female orgasm is almost a matter of honor. If in sexual encounters with a woman she does not have an orgasm, it is because the man has not fulfilled his obligations, as explained in the documentary Sacred Water.
Belgian director Olivier Jourdain’s debut feature focuses on sexuality in Rwanda and how men have used it for centuries a technique whose objective is solely for the woman to reach orgasm, the Kunyaza.
Born in Central Africa, this ancient technique is transmitted from generation to generation to men, as explained by the African sexologist Nsekuye Bizimana in his book Kunyaza, and has the woman as the absolute protagonist since it focuses entirely on pleasure and more specifically on squirting.
For them this liquid is almost sacred, essential in their sexual encounters. Parents explain to their children how to get “water to flow” from their partners, terminology that is already shown in the trailer of the documentary.
The word kunyaza comes from a legend, that of King Kamagere and his queen. On one of the king’s outings, she felt lonely and looked for a sexual partner among the royal guard. The guard, nervous about the king’s possible retaliation, was unable to penetrate her and began to rub his penis against the queen’s genitals.
What is the Kunyaza sexual technique?
The Kunyaza consists of stimulating the nerve endings of the vulva (of all, not only of clitoris) with the glans of the penis or with the fingers, but a sex toy can also be used to achieve the goal. It’s like when we do the famous petting, that rubbing of the genitals but this time with clothes outside and only using the glans.
Lubrication is important in this technique, so it is highly recommended that you use a water-based lubricant so that the experience is more pleasant and you avoid friction or annoying friction for both you and your partner.
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Once lubricated, the woman will be placed on her back (you can also try the doggy position), and the man will begin to use his glans to caress the vulva. The key is that the man uses his hand to direct the movement and passes through the labia majora and minora with light strokes to the clitoris.
Circular movements, zigzag, up and down … No matter how they are, as long as they are delicate, smooth movements, and in no case with penetration. You can accompany it with caresses all over the body, kisses or any game that increases excitement to the max. It can be useful practice slow sex to get arousal to rise to unimaginable places.
If you want, when you are about to climax you can try the penetration, this time light and barely perceptible. Your partner will only use the glans, as in that expression that says “just the tip.” And if, for him the technique is also very exciting.
If the squirting that Rwandans long for does not finally occur, don’t worry. According to the experts, not all of us can have it since it requires a structure and an anatomy that not all of us have the same developed, as the sexologist Mamen Jiménez explained to us. But what is certain is that with this technique our pleasure is guaranteed.
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