Learn how to deal with the tantrums of the smallest of the home.
It is important to differentiate between a tantrum and a real, urgent warning to meet a child’s need. To avoid confusion, it is necessary to specify what a tantrum is.
Definition:
1) Loud and prolonged crying commonly made by children. It may be followed by a tantrum from parents or other caregivers (teachers, grandparents or uncles).
2) Ostensible expression of great anger or anger.
3) Radical strategy to achieve something that is denied to the child by common sense, protection or tantrum of the parents.
Some tantrum scholars point out that children complainingly insist nine times before getting what they want from their caregivers.
While experience shows that 100% of children at some point in their lives will throw a tantrum to get what they want, 100% of parents say that at least once they lost their cool or did not know what to do.
Tantrums management:
1. DO NOT throw a tantrum too. Be the one who maintains sanity despite your child’s temporary lack of sanity.
2. DO NOT yell at him (don’t compete in volume, pitch and intensity).
3. DO NOT try to reason with him (for the moment he is not listening, he is momentarily blocked from all communication attempts).
4. DO NOT hit it (it will make the tantrum worse).
5. DO NOT shake or mock it (it can get frantic).
6. Let him finish his tantrum, only physically intervene if he tries to hit others or destroy things that do not belong to him. If he hits himself, let him do it, until he understands that hurting doesn’t work for him.
7. If the situation is embarrassing or very annoying for other people, you can leave the place with the child in your arms (not dragging him, please), then wait for the tantrum to end.
8. If the air goes out, keep in mind that a person can remain without breathing for about a minute without suffering any damage, so you should wait for it to pass, otherwise, they will have found a form of blackmail scaring you . If it turns blue or really bad, you can help him react by pouring a little water on his face (a few drops) or with a spanking.
9. Once the situation calms down, you should have a brief, calm but firm talk with him, in which you make it clear that tantrums are not the way to achieve what you want.
When a tantrum breaks out as a result of not giving you something you wanted, do not make the mistake of giving it to avoid or silence the tantrum, because you will become his slave and make your son a tyrant.