Whoever receives a rainbow baby receives one of nature’s most beautiful gifts, a new illusion for mom and dad.
A BEAUTIFUL GIFT
All babies are a magnificent gift of life, yet a rainbow baby holds an even more special value because it is the end of a stormy path left behind. The rainbow appears in the sky after a storm, displaying seven colors that positively influence people, in addition to an extreme luminosity caused by the rays of the Sun; It is a phenomenon that evokes a lot of energy, joy, fulfillment and enthusiasm for life. Also the rainbow baby, because it brings with it a new illusion for future parents.
HOW IS A RAINBOW BABY?
He is a baby conceived after having experienced the loss of a child and having overcome it, so that now he can fully receive the fortune of a new being. What defines a rainbow is the great illusion that its arrival keeps.
A GREAT JOURNEY BEFORE BIRTH
Just as the rainbow needs certain weather conditions to appear in all its glory in the sky, rainbow babies require certain characteristics to exist.
1. Between lightning
The loss of a baby is one of the most painful experiences that life can face, there are no words to describe the pain. However, a rainbow baby only comes after the following cases:
• Abortion
• When the baby dies at birth or a few days later
• Due to crib death, illness or accident
2. In full storm
All losses lead us to live a duel. A duel is a process that allows us to accept our reality. Each person experiences it differently, depending on their context: it is best to find a strong support network with friends and family. The loss acceptance process goes through the following stages:
• Denial: “It can’t be that I lost my baby after everything I went through to get pregnant.”
• Anger or rage: “I am angry with myself, with the doctors … how could I be experiencing this?”
• Negotiation: Seek divine help, “I promise I will not return to … if you …”
• Depression: the infinite sadness after having understood the situation.
• Acceptance: the understanding of the loss and the tranquility of having done everything in their power: “I gave my baby all my love.”
A RAINBOW BABY REACHES OUT TO A COUPLE WHO HAVE HAD A HARD TIME BECOMING PARENTS.
3. Faced with the first rays of light
When you have lived through all stages of mourning, the rainbow baby can finally make its appearance because now it is possible to expect it as a new illusion; without guilt or anxiety, a condition that could lead the couple to see this new baby as a substitute or to feel that they are betraying the child that is no longer there.
4. In the middle of the rainbow
Your new baby is already on the way and will need, like any baby, a lot of love, continuous and constant attention, the satisfaction of their needs, food, sleep, a secure attachment. But just in this sense, a rainbow baby will need an extra from his parents: the awareness that his fears may prevent him from proper emotional development.
WHAT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER CAN DO
The strength of each couple, the personalities, the life story, the management of conflicts, helps them to better work the grieving process and to get ahead together.
Some couples fail to overcome loss and grief, they must prepare a lot, accept some psychological help, and be happy to receive that rainbow baby in their lives, give yourself the opportunity and permission to enjoy a new illusion.
AS DADS THEY NEED TO FOCUS ON THIS NEW BEING UNDER OTHER THOUGHTS:
• This new pregnancy will bring you another enormous happiness.
• The birth of the new baby will be like light after the sad situation they lived through.
• This other baby will not be the same as the child they lost, it is someone with different qualities, even, possibly, of a different sex from the child who died.
• This baby does not have to meet the expectations placed on the other child; he is already building with you another story, a new one.
DO NOT BE AFRAID
It is normal to be fearful that the loss will recur and this can lead to being overprotective with the new baby.
The best thing they can do is enjoy the day to day, let your baby
be a rainbow and make your child grow with high self-esteem, self-confidence
and without socialization problems.
Do you have the joy of having a rainbow baby at home?