The way we talk to our children can have serious repercussions or can be of great help to their development.
To lower the tone of rebellious children a little, specialists recommend following a series of actions to avoid giving up and achieving it without getting upset.
Few words
Remember that you are the adult, you do not have to give explanations. Also, those little ones always have an answer for everything. You must have patience and answer in a few words something that he does not expect, for example, if your little one says? Can’t you force me? Say, “I love you too much to argue.”
No to power games
Analyze before immediately reacting to provocations. Calm down, take your time to think and talk to him when you are both calmer.
Comply with the consequences of their actions
If you decided how you will act in a tantrum, stick to it, comply and do it, no matter how ugly you feel. If you forgive, you are teaching him to ignore your orders or requests.
Act with empathy
Always use kind words and put yourself in their shoes before losing control. Try something better like, “Is this so sad?” to some offense or scream.
Speak positively
In this way you help them make good decisions. Never start with negative phrases with a “no”, change the idea to a negative aspect to ask for the same thing, but without using negation. Instead of saying “you can’t play until you fix your room, try” you can play as soon as your room is ready.