Find out what are the factors that cause low self-esteem in children.
The feeling of inferiority in a child is a consequence of a bad self-concept and this is formed of multiple factors. The main one is the way in which parents and close relatives refer to their person:? El chaparrito? La gorda? El negro?, etc.
Anyone would think that just by avoiding these comments in front of the little one, the matter is settled; however, children are not blind or stupid and they realize the effect they have on others.
The feeling of inferiority arises when a child believes that he does not meet the expectations that his parents and teachers have of him.
So, what to do?
Back to basics:
To the traditional values of a person such as: honesty, courage, respect, etc. Today there are so many models of identifying relative values and materialism that children are no longer clear on the difference between what is truly important or valuable and what is not. On the other hand, attachments have changed and have been directed more at things than at people, making it even more difficult to locate self-love and love of property.
It is necessary to focus on the real strengths of our children, who know that their value as people lies in what they are and not in what they have. Children need to hear concrete examples of things that they did, so it shows that they are all that mom says:? Did I realize how loving and patient you were with your grandmother? This drawing went very well for you? just they will understand it and will make it their own.
Avoid false flattery:
If you have discovered your child’s strengths you will not need to praise him for something that is not, because he will realize it in the same way.
It is important for children to know that they can do things that are wrong; but they are not bad for that. Separating behaviors from concepts frees children from labels and always allows them to repair mistakes.
Putting children into success:
It is important that children experience achievements, small triumphs that give them basic confidence and from it they want to be better.
Bring him books for his age, toys that he can manipulate, activities at his level and little by little he goes up the level of demand without pressure. Simple success will do the rest because nobody abandons something that is going well.
Self-esteem is built on love and respect.
Love surely already has it from the moment you are interested in its well-being. Respect refers to going at his own pace, respecting his preferences and abilities, so that after trying success, the child wants to enter other fields, in new experiences.
The key is that you teach your children to see what they do have instead of looking at what they lack and learning to compete with themselves before trying to compete with others.