Lies in a relationship hurt a lot! Large or small, white or black, they cause damage that is often irreversible. And it is that they destroy one of the most important bases of any relationship: trust.
HOW DO LIES HARM A RELATIONSHIP?
Lying does not only mean hiding or misrepresenting reality: it is also making fun of a person, believing that they are naive enough to believe what we tell them, and for which, in a false way, we believe ourselves superior and with the right to deceive to someone who trusts us and use manipulation. Seen this way, it is more serious than it seems!
TYPES OF LIES
It is true that there are lies to lies. But, if we reflect on it, all kinds of lies are harmful over time. For example, “white” lies, little by little, destroy our image and the trust that others have in us. It is like a snowball going down the hill: it grows until it becomes a really big problem.
In the couple, white lies may not be so serious at first, but affect affective ties if they are recurring: “I did not call you because I fell asleep”; “I feel bad enough to go see you” or other white lies are building an image that our partner is associating with the disinterest we have towards her.
Big or black lies can destroy our relationship the moment they are discovered. These are normally accompanied by infidelity, emotional imbalances, cellopathies, etc. With them, confidence is completely destroyed, which is very difficult to regain.
Lying to the couple is the same as not seeking their peace or tranquility. And we are not trying ours either, because we will always be looking for the means to cover up our deceit, and this is very tiring. And the lie has the nature of discovering itself: the truth, sooner or later, comes to light.
HOW TO BREAK THE HABIT OF LYING
- To overcome the habit of lying, or leave behind a lie that does not allow us to live in peace, it is important to have the will to stop doing it, no matter how big or small our lie is.
- If the lie towards our partner is due to infidelity, it is best to be honest, to leave behind everything for which we are hiding the truth. By lying, we are not only deceiving a person but ourselves, because we are recreating a reality that does not exist.
- Think that you would not like to have the same done to you either. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Did you discover your partner in a mantira? Face it! Do you really think it’s worth living like this?
Remember that there is no better couple relationship than one that is built with trust, peace and love. Build something like that for you, for you. They deserve it.
Do you feel that your partner is lying to you?