If you spend all day educating your son but when his father arrives he allows him everything, they need to read this article as a couple
If it happens to you that most of the time you are “the bad” of the story, it happens that children love to create a predilection for those who let them do and undo without limits. Be careful, in the upbringing mom and dad must educate together for the good of their family.
DAD INVOLVED
Despite working long hours away from home, try to find out what is happening in your home. Research shows that when dad takes responsibility for raising his little one in the same conditions as mom, children learn more, enjoy greater academic success, and exhibit healthier behavior. In the case of separated parents, who do not share the home but closely follow the evolution of the children and care about their care, the reaction of the children is exactly the same. What they need as a couple is basically talking, talk and talk, and thus achieve beneficial agreements for everyone at home.
WHAT DOES YOUR CHILD NEED FROM YOU?
– A parent who is involved and present.
– That you accompany him closely during his growth.
– Do not think that because your son is with his mom all day, you can ignore it.
– Be present at events in the child’s life: joys, sadness, achievements, difficulties …
– Get in agreement with your partner to organize schedules, how much TV can he watch or how many sweets can he eat during the week.
IF YOUR COUPLE IS OUT ALL DAY FOR WORK AND YOU ARE A HOUSEWIFE, FOLLOW THESE TIPS:
When your partner comes home, allow a little time for the father-son to meet up and welcome each other. That kissing and hugging ritual heralds the start of the part of the day when the family is reunited. If the child still has things to do before dinner (bathing, homework, tidying up his room…), it is a good time to do them with dad. They can set the table together as they discuss what they did on the day.
Don’t complain about the boy in front of him. If you consider that the little one is in a difficult season, pose it as a family matter: “This happens, how can we solve it between the two?” Being a mother does not mean solving problems alone: look for options together. The arrival of your partner does not mean passing the post, leaving him in charge of everything and ignoring your son.
CASE 1
My partner arrives from work and sits on the couch, the children take out the toys and in five minutes they mess up everything.
SOLUTION: if you feel like it, join the games or take a bath and, as the house order concerns everyone, the room should be closed before dinner.
CASE 2
My partner consents to everything, even allows me to respond poorly to please him and scolds me in front of him. He says it is too small and that it will pass. The child is the typical spoiled one.
SOLUTION: There are more permissive, patient or complacent adults than others, but their responsibility is to raise him well. It is necessary to agree with your partner where the limits will be.