This brief guide based on the results of a dating app it can avoid dangerous or awkward passages in some conversation to achieve a second date, it could fail, but just avoid these topics:
No need to talk about your past relationship
It sounds obvious and the most obvious. It is clear that talking about your ex while trying to seduce someone (under normal conditions) is not a good idea and the least possible thing is that this happens on your first date. Although the subject may appear, it is best to avoid approaching it, it simply does not suit you.
If you see the point of view of the place of the person you are talking to for a moment and you will understand how uninspiring that topic of conversation can be. That topic can always be talked about, but in due time, not your cover letter.
Your problems are not a topic of conversation
Among adults there are topics that we should avoid any conversation that makes you seem like someone you are not or that could generate rejection of your date. Your personal or work problems are one of those topics that you should not broach.
In addition, these “problems” must be defined, of course speaking of real problems. Because sometimes there are complicities, they are created when you realize that you and your date encounter small difficulties from day to day. If in a conversation about cell phones you mention that yours has problems with charging, that is just a common place, although this does not rise to a higher level of displeasure, so a conversation could be extended regarding these daily annoyances.
Family issues put them aside
Personal and family matters are among the most sensitive topics for a first date. Be clear that you are just getting to know a person, so share complicated topics or that they cannot understand with all the context, and less if they do not know your personal and family life.
Take care of comments about your date’s appearance
It may seem harmless and you’re doing it in good faith, you don’t know your date’s fixations and you might be able to point out some (very) tricky stuff. So you have to be delicate in exposing the issue of physical appearance. Of course, it’s normal and recommended to say “you look great”, but make sure that every compliment can only be interpreted in a positive way.
Don’t talk about the future explosively
During a date, there is always a place to a future and where a relationship could go. However, you have to be very careful when talking about the future on a date. In other words, talking about the number of children you want to have or the plans for a wedding, don’t mention it! You could generate a less than positive response.
For a date, without a doubt, the most important thing is to maintain good communication, have the sensitivity to be able to read between the lines and see the small messages that accompany the silences and gestures. Do you seem bored? We’re compatible? Will there be a second date? They are the common place we all seek to share with someone, so now the most important thing is the human appreciation of a relationship.