Without realizing it, you can have a preferred child, believe it or not. This is stated by Jeffrey Kluger, author of the books The effect of the brothers and Why mom likes you more. We tell you more about this topic.
95% OF PARENTS HAVE A PREFERRED CHILD AND THE REMAINING 5% LIE
This statement by the journalist is based on research where family dynamics were analyzed. Among them, the work of Catherine Conger, from the University of California (United States), who after visiting some 400 families to learn about their interactions, concluded that “65% of mothers and 70% of fathers show a preference for one of the sons, usually the eldest ».
The unconscious has a lot to do and there are several different patterns when mom and dad are inclined towards one, among the most common are:
- The boys are “shared out” and the boy is Mom’s favorite while the girls are Dad’s favorites.
- They can be seen projected onto one of the children, the one who is most similar and the one who sees a possible “improved version” of ourselves.
- They can be projected on the couple, on a family member already deceased or on someone who loves each other very much.
- Unconsciously we feel more concerned about the childless like us because we seek to understand him more.
- There are children who come at a certain vital moment to “fill a void” of something or someone.
- Often the oldest son is the favorite because he is the son to whom you dedicate the most money, resources, and attention.
- Although, the minor also has a chance of being a favorite, out of a kind of compassion, because the little one is the one that needs the parents the most
And here among us mom, do you have a penchant for one of your children?