It is very normal that after a day of a lot of work, traffic and a lot of obligations you feel overwhelmed and react angrily the first time they do to you: we leave you these effective ways to control anger.
Your son throws the milk and you get angry; he does not want to put on his pajamas and you shout “I will not repeat it to you”; well, when you feel angry you don’t even like me to make noise in the house. What to do?
Express it
When you are angry, the first thing that happens to you is an instinctive reaction to aggression, many times against the first person to irritate you or do something you don’t like (even if it is your child). Of course, this is not ideal because between anger you can hurt your child with words or blows. You need to put your emotion into words: «I am angry because… (I already wanted to get home to rest and there was a lot of traffic, for example).
Delete it
This occurs when you stop focusing on anger and choose to focus your attention on activities that vent your energy: playing with your child, the gym, having sex … is to make it constructive; I see that it is not about “swallowing it” because to do it, at any time you can exploit for pleasure or little by little with passive-aggressive attitudes of the type prosecution or control of the other: “I already told you darling that you are doing it wrong and now you must repeat the word 100 times ”.
Let it go
It is the most difficult thing to achieve, for this you need to begin to recognize your physical reactions of anger so that, little by little, you can control them when they appear with your calm and deep breathing. On the other hand, the best thing is to make your negative thoughts aware of the moment so as not to feed them: “I’m sick of nobody helping me, of having so much responsibility …”. Seek to silence such thoughts by occupying your mind with ideas that add peace to you: “I am going to hug my son, I will play with the dog for a while, this time I will breathe, I can …”.
When your child is in a tantrum, have a couple fight, a lot of work, face any situation that arouses your anger, remember these techniques and do them. They will really work for you, it’s just a matter of practicing them.