3 things divorced dads should know
A divorce is a complicated situation, not only for adults but also for children and the family in general.
If you are divorced or are in the process of separating from your partner, you must take into account these 3 aspects.
HOW DOES A CHILD LIVE THE DIVORCE OF HIS PARENTS?
Seeing his parents separate is very difficult for a child to understand, thousands of questions assail him and he may even think that it is his fault…
No matter how old your child is, you should always talk honestly with him and tell him why the situation, without details, perhaps with a: “your dad and I don’t get along anymore and the best thing for everyone is that we are separated, does not mean that we stop loving you, I love you ».
YOUR PRIORITY IS YOUR SON
Divorce creates a sea of complicated emotions, from sadness, anger, frustration… It must be very difficult for you to assimilate it, but also keep in mind that the one who is suffering the most is your son, Sometimes as adults, we only get involved in our problems You may see that your child is normal, but inside he is very scared, nervous, confused. So that this problem doesn’t get big, you should think about how to help him deal with all those emotions.
3 THINGS DIVORCED DADS SHOULD KNOW
Seek help
Perhaps seeking special and professional help will help everyone to get through this situation in the best way. You must help him understand in a way that is age-appropriate.
Beware
One of the first things that we neglect when we feel sad, depressed, or anxious is our personal appearance and health. As difficult as the situation you are experiencing is, do not leave yourself aside. Keep exercising, eat well, get ready and look pretty in the mirror. It will give you encouragement.
Give yourself time to de-stress, pamper yourself. massage yourself, put on masks…
Give you a chance
Do not close, go out with your friends, organize family trips or with colleagues, go on vacation or weekend with your child, do not stay locked up at home to pass the sorrows, go out, distract yourself, know new places It will help you think about different things and avoid depression.
WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THE DIVORCE?
There is no exact date or time when wounds will heal, that is personal, each person has their own time and rhythm to heal, but what you should keep in mind is that the world does not end. Maybe your love story is over, but think that another or better ones will come, that you will enjoy. Give yourself the opportunity to love again and above all, to be loved, appreciated, valued, respected and to be happy.
WHAT YOU MUST NOT DO
As much as your partner has hurt you, never speak ill of him or her to your child. Your child does not have to be contaminated with bad thoughts (unless your partner has subjected them to domestic violence).
Help your child not to think that it was his fault and that you will always love him.
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