Your little one is no longer a baby and wants to behave like “big” children. If you disagree with them, they no longer throw temporary tantrums, but they put you in a bad mood.
The spontaneous happiness they had as babies has disappeared and sometimes it seems that the bad temper dominates their personality. At five and six years old, children already want to make their own decisions. If they are contradicted they can become very foolish.
The more we deny them something, the more they love it, since through these gestures they reaffirm their own identity. They believe that there is no right for adults to impose rules on them. They have learned to turn on the television, eat alone or put on their pajamas, but they have to do it when an adult asks them to. “How unfair! Well then, I go and get angry.”
How do they get!
Your child’s character has a lot to do with how he gets angry, but the environment he lives in and the education he receives from his parents also have a lot to do with it.
1. If he perceives aggressive behaviors at home, he is likely to shout, throw objects, cry… If the parents do not do these things, he will only put on bad faces and shut himself up.
2. If a bad mood happens to outbursts, we must forcefully call their attention, especially if it violates the rules such as hitting, insulting, or breaking.
3. When you don’t understand the reasons, we can give you room to calm down and reflect on your misbehavior.
Flattery instead of reproach
1. If your child goes through a lot of bad temper episodes a day they may want to get your attention. It has been shown that adults pay more attention to children when they make bad gestures than when they don’t.
2. We must reinforce the good behavior of the little one, saying things like: “I am very happy that you have picked up your toys”, or “I saw that when the bear fell from your sister, you picked it up and gave it to her, you were very kind”. It is not necessary to mix flattery with criticism, saying things like: “How good that today you brush your teeth, not like other times”, in which case the phrase loses its positive effect.
3. Paying more attention to your good behavior doesn’t mean you should ignore it when you’re in a bad mood. We all get irritated and that feeling must not be repressed. Frustration and anger are part of growth. Luckily, children’s moods fade away as soon as a more interesting stimulus appears.