The idea of time alone with Dad is not as far-fetched as it may seem, in fact, it is compelling. We corroborate this when talking with the psychoanalyst Paty Osuna, who explains the reasons. We share them with you.
ALONE WITH DAD “WITHOUT MOM”
Paty Osuna explained to us: “The father cannot be linked in the same way when mom is present; she generates distortion between him and his son because she is the most important person in the life of any child, in the sense that he is the one to whom he naturally turns when he feels some need ”.
The importance of time alone with dad is that when mom is not there, the father becomes one more resource that the little one can also use to satisfy his needs. It is important that children form a strong bond with each of their parents, as this gives them more security and self-confidence.
The specialist tells us… “Something important happens, especially in small families: when the mother scolds the child and gets angry, he feels very bad; but when he has a third party to comfort and guide him, he learns to better face the situation. Knowing that he has a dad, even though he is not physically there at the time, comforts him. Instead, when this connection does not exist, how do you think the child feels? There can always be another, of course, your grandfather or aunt, but the ideal is that third party be a father. ”
Patricia Osuna explains that the ideals to be achieved are determined by what we believe as parents expect from us as children. When they acknowledge our achievements, we become proud because we feel that our effort matters; This gives us the confidence necessary to perform successfully in life.
The fact that dad lives with the children favors that he knows them; then, that you recognize your achievements and then, favor the expectation of success; which is decisive for a child to be a successful adult.
“Studies related to women’s job success have revealed that extremely prominent women, such as a company president, a leader of some social movement or leader in some field, have in common the presence of a father who has promoted them; or that they had when they had a certain complacent look from the man who served as their father, although it was not necessarily the biological one, ”argues the specialist.
Most women think that when Dad is left alone with his little ones, the house is likely to end up as a field of World War III. However, it is interesting to do this exercise because “dad’s way of doing things” gives children another way to solve problems. Sometimes they are very creative; others, aberrant, however, through this “other way” children realize that there is always more than one solution; likewise, they are given the ability to venture out to experiment, which enriches their world.
For example, when faced with a conflict, call yourself buying a house, the women speak: “we must go and inform ourselves of all the options”; men, being more kinesthetic, for testosterone tend to action: “you have to buy this model and now.” These different forms of parents teach the young child that it is possible to approach the same problem from different angles.
Perhaps it has happened to mom that one day, cooking an egg as usual, suddenly, her child says “Mommy, my dad did it like that the other time, I tell you how”; Without imagining it, the little one puts before her eyes another way of cooking the egg, one that she had never thought of. Well, this type of alternative solutions are presented thanks to the fact that the child had the opportunity to live alone with his father.
Now that you know the benefits of leaving your child in the care of his dad,
why not establish a Saturday or Sunday a month as “the day alone with dad.”
It will be an adventure for your family.