To reopen the door to love and form a new relationship, you have to take time, analyze the mistakes made so as not to repeat them and be clear about what is expected in this opportunity.
WHEN TO START A NEW RELATIONSHIP AFTER DIVORCE?
Restarting a new relationship after divorce is not easy, but neither is it impossible. Life is short, and after a romantic breakup, it is useless to prolong the grief more than necessary, for fear of falling in love again.
One of the most common fears when committing a second time is that the new person has the same defects as the previous one. So it is common to look for the opposite of what has been had. However, unconsciously, we are always attracted to the same type of person. So it is very important to analyze very well where the other relationship failed.
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
Instead of feeding our fears, what we should do is try not to make wrong behavioral patterns again. “We have to ask ourselves if we knew that our first partner was stingy, flirtatious or dominant before we got married.
Did it bother us already then? In that case, why do we continue with her? Did we think we could change it? Assuming that no one changes easily prepares us to better choose our new partner or at least to reach agreements with her about what we are willing to give and compromise, “says psychologist Margarita García.
“People who have had one or even two relationships are better prepared to prevent the problems that arise in coexistence than those who never dared to commit themselves and remain single at an advanced age,” says the expert.
ANALYZE ERRORS
By analyzing the mistakes made and discussing them with the new partner, conflicts that could arise in the new relationship are prevented. It is also important to reach agreements on the aspects that led to the emotional breakdown, before embarking on a life together.
When the new relationship is more consolidated, you should not avoid, for example, talking about whether you want to have children, how they will face the common expenses, whether they will accept that the other goes out only with their friends, how are the relationships with the previous one partner, etc.
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