At your child’s school, do they call you every week to report their misbehavior? Does your child get angry and his first instinct is to hit? Keep reading.
WHAT TO DO IF YOUR CHILD HITS?
You must understand that it is an “instinctive” way to react to achieve your goal.
WHAT MOTIVATES YOUR CHILD TO HIT?
- His emotions
- Who has little tolerance for frustration
- Its environment. If your child lives in an aggressive environment, it will be normal for him to behave like this
Children don’t know a better way to get what they want because they are still learning. It is normal for your first reaction to be aggressive because it is a natural survival resource.
WHAT DO I DO SO THAT MY SON DOES NOT HIT
1. Act. Let your child know that what he did is not right.
2. Inquire. Ask him what’s wrong, if he has a problem.
3. Don’t judge him. Listen to your child without making judgments or yelling.
4. Mention logical consequences. Don’t say things like “you’ll never play your cousin again.”
5. Teach him to recognize his emotion. Talk to your child about what just happened. Ask him: were you mad at your friend?
6. Explain to him. Tell him it’s not wrong that he gets mad, but it’s not okay that he shows it by hitting or biting.
7. Help him be empathetic. Tell him that whoever he hit felt sad or hurt a lot, tell him to put himself in his place, if they did the same to you, wouldn’t it hurt?
8. Help him to resolve conflicts. As it grows it will be able to solve them without you and without fighting.
9. Teach him to apologize. Probably at first, he refuses; So take him by the hand and lead him to do it. To give him the example, the first few times you will have to apologize on his behalf so that he imitates you.
10. Reward him. When he achieves something without a fight, congratulate him and tell him he did very well.
STEPS TO SOLVE A PROBLEM
1) Your child should identify the problem, what happened? Do you want?
2) Reaching an agreement with the other person, what is the best for both of you? They can wait in turns.
3) Find a solution.
Did you know that 75% of children fight over toys?
Does your child hit when he gets angry?