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What if you found out that your partner has been having racy conversations with another person over the internet for months? This can be considered virtual infidelity.
We all have a mobile phone in our hands with which we can access the internet and browse different social networks. But many couples believe that anything is possible with a phone, that in that intimacy and privacy everything is justified. This is how virtual infidelity arises.
There are many applications that are already advertised as extra conjugal encounters or a site for cyber infidels. This means that there are couples who make use of this type of platform in order to meet other people to flirt, do sexting and perhaps have a face-to-face meeting.
Although many people downplay this issue and consider that the words and the exchange of messages on the mobile phone do not refer to infidelity, for others this means the breakdown of the relationship. Can you overcome an infidelity of this type?
What is a virtual infidelity?
We talk about virtual infidelity when one of the members of a relationship maintains contact with a person through mobile, mediating desire, exchanging risque messages, sensual photographs, and the other person does not know. If the other does not know what is happening, it is possible to speak of infidelity.
Depending on the social network in which this exchange of messages is taking place, these two people may never see each other. But there is always the possibility that they like each other more and more and that, what seemed impossible before, is now taken as an option.
Whether this is more or less serious will depend on what the couple considers to which they are being unfaithful. However, it is clear that there is a deception and a betrayal, since what is happening is not being communicated to the other.
How to discover a virtual infidel?
One of the ways in which we can discover a virtual infidel is when the couple always takes their cell phone to the bathroom, even though he would only go to sanitize his hands. This can be a red flag if you have never done so before.
Another circumstance that can discover a virtual unfaithful is when he is with his partner and picks up the mobile by turning it slightly. If you always close everything when the other person wants to see what you are doing, watch out!
Start putting passwords on your mobile, tablet or computer when there were none before, it can also be a red flag. In the event that the couple is startled by being interrupted while on the phone or if they always erase the history, all this will generate doubts.
3 tips to overcome a virtual infidelity
Can a virtual infidelity be overcome? We think so, though you have to put a lot of each part so that the relationship can be strengthened of this situation. That is why we have compiled these 3 tips that we think are important.
1. Communicating is essential
Communicating the suspicions that you are having is not something pleasant. The other person may get angry, make excuses, or get defensive.
However, not talking about what is happening will not improve anything. It will only deteriorate the relationship. Therefore, it is important to talk about what is happening and why it has reached this point.
2. Try to find solutions
The causes of virtual infidelity can be varied. From boredom within the relationship to low self-esteem, the need for different emotions, feeling desired or lack of attention from the other.
It is important to treat everything calmly, without recriminations. The affected couple must try to find solutions and this is a work of two.
3. Seek professional help
It will be difficult to solve the problems derived from a virtual infidelity without professional contribution. A psychologist can be of great help And, in the event that the couple has problems with their sexual relations, going to a sexologist is also going to be a good idea.
The risk of not addressing virtual infidelity
Virtual infidelity only has two exits: a joint solution or that the couple ends up doing the same, being virtually unfaithful. If this is not resolved in the first place and is allowed to pass, the relationship will not have much of a future and may become toxic.
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