Not all women have succumbed to the famous clitoral sucker and of those who have, there are some who, after falling for the Satisfyer marketing campaign, are reluctant to use it.
What many love (it is sold as a toy with which you get easy and fast orgasms), is something that other women hate. And there are women who do not get those promises of a powerful orgasm, effortlessly and easily.
Although every woman is different and what happens to one does not have to be what happens to another, there are some more common reasons why it may not be working for you as well as others, that until claim they have deleted Tinder after buying one.
The reasons we give in this article are the most common but they may not fit what happens to you. If you think that you may suffer from any pathology or you have doubts, it is best that you go to your doctor to try to solve it with the help of a professional.
Female pleasure is not just about turning on the Satisfyer
The Satisfyer’s ability to achieve orgasms in three minutes can be translated by many as the fast food of orgasms, as the sexologist Mamen Jiménez explains to us. It may be that the focus is on the orgasm and we become obsessed with it, instead of enjoying everything that surrounds that pleasure, such as the wonderful previous arousal.
Don’t think turning it on and using it is enough to achieve an orgasm. Foreplay that increases your arousal is still just as necessary. Using it without being aroused and pretending that a miracle happens and you have an orgasm out of nowhere is a mistake.
And we add something else: “always masturbating in the same way to reach orgasm can lead us to have certain difficulties when enjoying sex as a couple, such as problems reaching orgasm”, according to our expert. Do not think that your pleasure should focus only on a sucker, there is a lot of world to focus our attention on only one gadget.
You have not found the exact point
One of the simplest reasons why you are not getting things to work in this relationship with your sucker is that you are simply putting it on your vulva and you are not looking for that point (and that power) that may be right for you.
It is important to follow the manufacturer’s recommendations, which advises “to separate the lips of the vulva with your fingers so that we leave the clitoris visible and accessible, and then, after turning on the device that starts at the lowest level of massage, we place the head on it, making it inside the cavity of the Satisfied”.
Once placed you can play with the power levels and try to adjust it to the area where you perceive more pleasure. Move it slightly and increase and decrease the power until you find the one that best suits your pleasure. As with any other sex toy it does not have to be love at first sight, there are times when it is necessary to find the “point” to fit your pleasure.
Knowing you is the best way to achieve a better result in any area of the sexSo before using any “add-ons” it is best to research your own body and find out what you like and what you don’t like.
Excessive sensitivity in the area
“It may be the case of women who have a very sensitive clitoris due to lack of stimulation and direct stimulation makes not well managed by the brain and that it signals tickling instead of pleasure. The sensitivity depends on the use you make ”, explained the sexologist Raúl Padilla to our colleagues from Xataka.
Sensitivity, like pain or the ability to feel pleasure are unique to each person and there are women who have more sensitivity in the clitoral area and an excess of stimulation in the area produces more displeasure than pleasure.
If despite following all the recommendations for use it is still annoying, do not worry, This particular toy may not be the best for you and it’s okay not to use it.
Not all sex toys are for all women
Every woman is a world and maybe the clitoral sucker is not for you, without more. As the sexologist Raquel Graña told us, every woman likes some things and some toys work for her.You just have to find out what you like.
Maybe yours just isn’t the Satisfyer, as much as your friend has made him her BFF since she bought him. And that is not a bad thing or anything strange happens to you, it just is not for you, like that lip color with which you do not look favored.
Just because something is in style doesn’t mean it works for you. Learning to know yourself and what you like is also part of finding pleasure in sex, and a clitoral sucker may not be in on that quest.
And my friend That the Satisfyer doesn’t work for you is as natural as anything else. If it is not for you, keep it in a drawer and zero dramas, there are a thousand more ways to get movie orgasms without using one of these fashionable gadgets.
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