How are you doing with yourself? How’s the weather going for you? The deal you give yourself? The words you choose to speak to yourself? We try to please everyone, give time and attention to family, relationships and colleagues, however it is time to ask ourselves what we are doing with ourselves, what is the commitment with our mind, body, emotions, what is lives internally, with our being? To answer these questions, Cynthia Zak, composer, mindfulness teacher, meditation expert, and author of the book Ignite Your Heart, shares 5 tips to improve your relationship with yourself.
By connecting with yourself and also taking care of that relationship, the vibration of what surrounds you changes
completely. Remember, before attending to the world around you, you must first focus on yourself.
It is also very important to start paying attention to your heartbeat; calm the mind with the help of breathing, and focus attention on the heart and its beating, its rhythm and sound, awakening the intelligence of this master center that transforms one’s perception and the world.
connect with name
The name of each person, like a mantra, contains the essence of personal power, of identity. Some people may like their name, others not so much and prefer shorter or even completely different versions to refer to themselves, but the influence of the name on the heart and on the personal essence is very important. “I recommend you investigate what your name means, make it yours, pronounce it, experiment a bit with it and study its origin: Where does your name come from, what is the story behind it, how do you feel when you are called or called . The way in which this exploration paves the way to self-knowledge and personal power is very deep and subtle,” Zak said.
First, you must choose a word that would be nice to hear from someone else, then you
pronounce “I am…”, followed by the word that has been chosen; you can experiment with various
nice words and discuss why they were chosen, why it is important, etc.
attend to emotions
In today’s world, identifying emotions, recognizing them, giving them space and not labeling them is a great challenge, since you are constantly disconnected from them, so it is essential to start paying attention to them without making judgments and analyzing what triggers them, and what they produce in the body and in the state of mind.
question everything
That is, asking oneself questions, inquiring, searching more deeply for the origin of the reactions, responses and manifestations. The author of Turn on your heart recommended doing this personal exercise and asking yourself: what is this thought for? What is the emotion associated with it for? Is it possible to get out of there? In what part of the body is it resonating?
be gentle and forgive
Be gentle and forgive: Referring to treating yourself with love, with compassion in difficult times and in the face of mistakes. “Take care of the way you talk to yourself and the way you refer to yourself. I advise as a ritual to record on your cell phone some audios in which you speak to yourself in a gentle way, and in which you highlight qualities that you like about yourself. Then, you can listen to them to heal all those wounds that at some point you have made by referring to yourself in a negative or violent way”, Zak comments.
self date
Have you stayed to find yourself? An appointment to relax, connect, breathe, walk, feel or just be present? We don’t miss appointments with the doctor or the boss, but it sounds impossible to find ourselves.
To put it into practice, the expert recommends in her book Enciende tu Corazón, schedule a time of day and set a few minutes for the appointment, as well as setting an alarm to remind you that it is the
time to stop and feel the heart beating as an anchor with the present moment, which is the
perfect moment.
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