Giving your child everything he asks for can make him a materialist and make him lose the value of people; with these tips you will promote in your child that it is more important to be than to have
It is normal that you want your child to have more than what you had at his age: the main objective of any mom or dad is to seek the greatest well-being for their little one, but if you feel the need to compensate your child with material things for the Little time that you spend and you feel guilty is not the best way to satisfy your desires. Not only do you provide the material needs of your family, but the important thing is also to be and be with your child, and show him that he is worth for the person he is and not for what he owns.
Your “giving” behavior becomes harmful when:
- Behind the gifts is a feeling of guilt or frustration on your part.
- You shop trying to compensate the child for the time you are not home.
- You don’t consider your child’s tastes.
- You reflect an unsatisfied personal desire.
- You insist on giving what you did not have despite the fact that your economy does not allow it.
Even if you are able to give your child all the toys in the world, don’t do it! He must know that behind every thing you give him is the effort of your work. It is important that you learn that in life you cannot have everything and that you must value what you have.
How to do it?
- Limit gifts to special dates or achievements.
- Give her tasks that are an incentive to get something.
- Preach by example. If you go to a store, let your child hear you say, “I really like that dress, I’ll save to buy it.”
Learn to say NO
Knowing how to say no on time and staying firm can help your child in the future, even if for now it causes anger and frustration.
Determine not to give him:
- Everything in that instant.
- More than you need.
- Something without an effort involved.
TEST
LOCATE IF YOUR CHILD HAS THE CHILD’S SYNDROME WHO WANTS EVERYTHING
- Do you appreciate and are happy with what you have?
- How do you receive the gifts they give you?
- How do you ask for what you want?
- How does he react to the things you ask him to do?
- Are you struggling to get what you want?
- Do you place a lot of emphasis on what you own?
NOTE: if you answered YES to more than three questions, be careful!