Fear is an innate act in children, help them to give them security to face them.
Fears are part of our daily life and in childhood fears are very clearly present. There may be innate fears, characteristic of human nature, such as fear of the unknown or of dying. There are also fears related to the stage of development as in the case of preschool children who wake up at night crying for fear of what they dreamed of. Other fears appear when the child experiences a traumatic experience or the presence of a violent scene that he considers may occur to him or to those he loves.
What can we dads do? Support them, especially accompany them during their moments of fear so that they perceive you are protecting them, until he or she obtains sufficient security to protect themselves.
Another option is to gradually get used to what you fear; For example, if your little one is afraid of being alone at school, talk about it so that little by little he can last longer without being around you.
Don’t overprotect him and allow him to start solving his own problems, as long as they don’t exceed his age and stage of development.
Julia Borbolla wisely mentions that scolding creates real fears, while disapproval creates unreal fears; scolding for risky behavior allows you to value or size what you did, not accepting your child in general and criticizing him for anything, will produce widespread fear.
Another strategy is to show the child what is really going on behind his fear, for example if he is afraid of a movie, show him how to do special tricks for movies. Of course, this does not mean giving up the indispensable supervision that adults must exercise in front of the television programs and movies that the child watches. If your child is very susceptible to certain types of scenes, avoid them. It is not necessary to be managing the child’s fear if we can avoid it as a principle.
There are fears that diminish with age and others persist throughout life.
I suggest that you serve as a “negative pole” (without energy) so that the “positive pole” (charged with negative energy) can be discharged, as is the case with the electrically charged poles. Allow your child to say what he has to say and get his emotions out without feeling judged, but listened to. Don’t interrupt it. Let him bring out his fears so he can overcome them.