Physical punishment does not educate, with a spanking, “very soft”, your child learns that he can use violence to resolve conflicts.
Has it happened to you that you feel that your child loves to exceed or test the limits that you set? When you are most tired, nervous or angry, do you lose your nerve and resort to hitting and screaming? Do you feel bad after hitting or yelling at your child?
DID YOU SAY ANY OF THESE “COMMON” PHRASES WHEN HITTING YOUR CHILD?
- “It is for your good”
- “They hit me too”
- “I will give you”
- “A spanking on time will help you”
- “You deserve it for making me angry”
- “If you don’t shut up, I’ll give you another one”
- “I’m going to hit you so you know what’s good”
- “Shut up or I’ll hit you”
- “I give you a reason to cry hard”
HOW TO AVOID PHYSICAL PUNISHMENT
A physical punishment is to use force to correct a behavior (spanking, shaking, flip-flopping, slapping, ear pulling, pinching …).
You must stop thinking that physical punishment is educational.
Think about how you teach your child to obey out of fear.
Because you make your child think that people who love him are allowed to hit him (and anyone who loves him).
Justify your violence saying “you hit your fault , ” your child understands that the violence is a solution depending on the situation.
When you hit your son, he records that at home “they don’t want him.”
Almost always a hit is accompanied by negative phrases, verbal abuse and that lowers your child’s self-esteem.
If you see violence as a way to release your frustration, anger and other feelings, your child will do the same.
Do you want your child to solve his problems in a responsible and civilized way? Treat your child with respect. Your mission as a dad: that nobody exerts any type of violence on your son. Your duty as a dad is to protect him, you are the last one who should hit him or yell at him.
How do you “punish” your child?