Raising two children of such close ages can be difficult, but not impossible. Check these solutions for those cases in which your older son and his brother get you into trouble.
“The big one gets angry if I breastfeed the little one”
When a child reacts badly to the birth of a sibling, some moms feel guilty and pay little attention to the little one, so as not to arouse the jealousy of the older one. The bad thing is that they enter a spiral of guilt, because they feel that the great was dethroned and that the baby does not show all the affection he deserves. What can you do to balance the attention each one needs?
SOLUTION. Your older son doesn’t care that you love his brother; he is more distressed by the idea that you stop loving him. That is why it is necessary to dedicate “special moments” to it. Five minutes here and five there are enough, if they involve mindfulness.
How can you do it? Get up to him, let him choose a game and set the rules, change roles! As for the little one, give it exclusivity when feeding it, when changing it …
Don’t forget to spontaneously express your love to each of your children. If you do it normally and naturally, you will see how the older one ends up accepting the situation once his adaptation time has passed, while the little one grows up feeling sheltered, accompanied and loved.
How to go out with both of them and not die trying
Going out with two young children implies overcoming continuous logistical challenges. It involves, among other things, preparing everything necessary in less time, taking advantage
better space and juggle, because each may require different accessories.
SOLUTION. Treat them “like twins” when you change their diapers, dresses, or feed (the little one will be able to eat like the older one by 10 months). East
It is the advice of many moms to save time.
- Involve your partner in the care of your children; It will be a great support for you
and a gift for him. For example: while you bathe the little one, let him read a
I count the eldest.
- Get accessories that make it easier and more comfortable to go out with both, from
a double stroller to a kangaroo or a shawl, in case anyone refuses to walk (or can’t yet).
Do you feel very pressured?
ASK FOR HELP!
Tiredness, conflict and overwork with two young children can lead to helplessness, even depression. Do not overreact and everything will be fine.
SOLUTION. For practical questions, ask for help. Difference between what only you
you can do (breastfeed, for example), and what others can do (almost all other household chores).
- Dedicate a space every day -even if it is small- to yourself. Get loose and break with the domestic routine to be able to continue without losing your optimism. The
all you need is to organize yourself well and find the right supports.
- If you feel powerless to handle the situation, contact a professional.
He will help you see solutions that you may not be considering.