In order for the half-siblings to develop a good attitude towards each other, it will depend largely on the good sense of the parents to unite the family. Take note!
Currently, the structure of some families is made up of divorced, separated or widowed adults in which the minor children or adolescents of each have a place. However, a half brother can appear in the life of a child generating a complete revolution in the family structure to which he was accustomed.
The age at which the half brothers meet can be decisive for the relationship to work or not in the future. Likewise, the circumstances in which the parents are, when this encounter occurs, can also be an influencing factor.
The possible combinations are very complex:
- A divorced couple with children and he or she remarry and have children with the new partner.
- A child who was an only child who is suddenly “older brother”, “middle brother” or “younger brother” because his father married a woman who already had children older or younger than him, and now he has to live with them or live with them on weekends when before it was a time spent only with their dad.
Relationships between half-siblings are particularly difficult since children often do not fully understand the reasons that parents can give them. In addition, the presence of the variant of the daily or sporadic coexistence of the relationship.
WHAT TO DO TO GET ALONG?
1. Don’t impose affection. Relationships are built based on coexistence over time to create emotional ties. Not by decree of mom or dad.
2. Give them their space and time so that they gradually build their own relationship, with their own rules, times and dynamics.
3. It generates the spaces to be together, but always considering and respecting the ages and interests of each one. Do not take the teenager to children’s shows “so that he can live with his little brother”, nor do you put the little one to see how the teenager is connected by sending messages from his cell phone.
4. Consider possible jealousy. Unresolved conflicts with parents that half-brothers worsen by contrasting the quality of relationship they can have with their parents.
Remember, the time you give and the respect for them to create their own bonds with each other will depend on whether they choose to create a solid long-term relationship, although it is not uncommon to observe distant relationships between them when they have grown up and are not obliged to share moments with their parents, even though they have tried to unite them.
Try good shared moments, fun
and respectful coexistence, maybe this way you can achieve more.