If when you have to make decisions, you feel stressed, you usually ask everyone for their opinion, you decide something and the next day you change it, you torture yourself analyzing whether you do it right or wrong, or it takes you a long time to choose… most likely you need to work your emotional security and self-confidence.
We share with you these four ideas that you can do to break the circle of fear that does not allow you to feel safe and confident of your criteria and of your own person, of your power to face obstacles, challenges and, even, to live the good things that you the Universe rules.
Why does it matter that you break this circle?
- Emotional insecurity leads you to make wrong decisions for your well-being.
- The insecurity of yourself leads you to live situations of anxiety, frustration, dissatisfaction; things as negative for your well-being as jealousy, toxic partners, physical or emotional violence, abuse for not being able to decide for your happiness.
- And most importantly, because your children would be learning the way you conduct yourself in life: if you are insecure and do not have confidence in yourself, you transmit this same emotional condition to them; they are behavioral, cognitive and emotional patterns that they learn. So if you work them, you can give your children a better world for themselves.
TO FEEL SECURITY AND TRUST IN YOU
Trade the irrational fears you identify in yourself for real emotions
People focus on what they don’t want, not realizing that the more they think about it, the more real it becomes. Therefore, it is better to think about the emotional reality of each situation: “I do not want my relationship to end”, better: “I feel that my relationship is unbalanced, why am I feeling this and how can I solve it?”.
Strengthen your self-esteem and self-confidence
Concentrate on your real possibilities and opportunities, the circumstances you live and yourself. It is to stop thinking about what you need to make way for what you have. Have you heard the saying “if life gives you lemons, make lemonade”? This is exactly what it is all about. Rescue your virtues, talents, abilities, resources… that will help you value yourself and your self-esteem will grow.
Accept and acknowledge the fears that make you feel insecure
We often hide even from ourselves fears for fear of being vulnerable! but just when we feel it means that we are on the path of personal growth: are you afraid to leave a man you no longer love, are you afraid of when your child grows up and leaves home, are you afraid of being alone, to express your emotions, to be unfaithful…? Behind every fear, there is a life lesson for you and inside you know it; just let yourself see it.
Choose action-oriented thinking
This is the point that will lead you to the decision. Your fears are those that do not let you decide: fear that they will make fun of you, fear of not being the woman your father expects, fear of failing in a job, fear of running out of money… Analyze what is the worst thing that could happen in every situation and if what you fear has a real probability of happening; Many times it happens that what we fear the most never happens. Then, make your action plan for those hypothetical situations that cause you fear, that will make you feel safe and with the power you need to face any situation, no matter how adverse it may be.
These tips can also be used to help your child learn to decide, to grow his self-esteem, security and confidence and to teach him that no matter what comes in the future, he has the personal power to get ahead, just like you.