Attachment is the affective bond that we all develop from childhood and that determines the way we affectively relate to people throughout life. that is why it is important to watch that your child develops a secure attachment. We help you identify if his attachment is secure, or not.
ADULTS WITH HEALTHY EMOTIONAL TIES
Symptoms of insecure attachment:
• Your son does not express wishes of affection, although when you leave he throws tantrums and tantrums.
• It is usually hostile and aggressive towards everyone in general.
• Is uncomfortable with physical contact.
• Your emotional reactions are exacerbated; comes to anger or unstoppable crying.
• Ignores you when you speak to him; continue to focus on your activities.
EXAMPLE OF YOUR ATTITUDE:
When you want to help him put his toy together he gets mad; He snatches the item from you or chooses to retreat to go somewhere else by himself. Nor does he share his activities with other children.
Tips to help them create secure attachment:
- Have a lot of physical contact with him: hug him, tickle him, play with him.
- When you breastfeed him or his bottle, talk to him, you can tell him about your day, what you did, what you felt …
- Do not reject him when he cries, on the contrary, he attends to his needs, it may be cold, hunger, or he just wants your attention. It is normal because it requires your protection.
- Take moments to connect emotionally with him, in the bathroom or at night, to look at him, caress him or you can read him a story; hearing your voice will help you feel close.
What happens to a baby when his mom is not close to him?
The type of attachment you develop is insecure. Babies begin to feel rejected, so they “unconsciously” decide “not to fight for their attention, not to worry and resolve on their own. They have the feeling that he cannot trust anyone, people displace him, so he better displace himself.
When he is an adult, he may be solitary and pragmatic, not assertive, lacking in commitment, emotionally distant and with marked difficulties in establishing affective ties with people.