Single motherhood is becoming more frequent and the way of living it has changed. Although his challenges are not minor, now he lives as a privilege. In fact, you have a lot to contribute to your child’s emotional development. Look at the advantages of being a mom without a partner.
L os times are changing and although there are now many more options than traditional to organize a family, having a baby without the support of a partner, remains the major challenge facing a considerable number of women around the world.
From those who planned to go to a clinic for artificial insemination, to those who experienced abandonment that they did not imagine or decided to separate from their partner. The range of causes for which motherhood is practiced alone is very varied, and although this is sometimes seen as a stigma, there are also those who consider it a privilege.
WHY NOT?
After all, the challenges and satisfactions that children provide are the same under any circumstance, and from certain approaches, when the absence of the father is properly managed, it can even become an area of opportunity to add to the experience and make it something special.
Let us not forget that although society has filled it with titles, beliefs, prejudices and “must be”, that sometimes do not allow us to appreciate motherhood in its proper measure, since it is something transcendental and profound. Reviewing its true meaning is mandatory for anyone who wants to live and intensely enjoy the experience, regardless of the circumstance in which it is done.
Finding out through books or magazines, listening to the advice of experts and learning from mothers who have achieved it (and are extremely happy), is a way to generate new ways of thinking, feeling and doing. Are you a mom without a partner? No matter, you better lighten the emotional load, get rid of ghosts and enjoy fully!
ADVANTAGES FOR YOUR CHILD OF BEING A MOTHER WITHOUT A PARTNER
Strong and determined moms-children with high self-esteem and empowered
The way to refer to a mother without a partner is “single mom” and although this describes a marital status, it often has negative connotations related to compassion or disdain. Due to stereotypes, when we think of a single mother, almost without realizing it, we make an association with abandonment, with the impossibility of getting a partner or with a personality unable to take charge of her life; but many times, it is the opposite.
With the amount of information on contraception or the laws that allow the legal termination of pregnancy, we face new generations of women who, from responsibility, strength and desire, decide to have their children alone. Just as there are women who do not have the vocation to be mothers, there are those who are deeply rooted and seek and take the opportunity, when it occurs.
Therefore, it is fundamental for their self-esteem and that of their children, that they do not allow the devaluation of their state, because what they live is simply a different circumstance and from this their son has the great opportunity to learn empowerment from his mother with which she is taking her own life.
Non-traditional mom- proactive, leader and independent son
Being a model that goes beyond what is established, it is normal for questions, doubts and fears to arise. If you detect that there is something of this it is important to go to therapy. It must also be done if you realize that your life revolves around that child and there are no motivations outside of motherhood.
How does that child fit into the family system? What am I going to tell him about his dad? How are you going to influence important decision making regarding work, partner or more children? How can I provide you with a father figure?
With the passage of time, these and other issues will emerge and we must be with the antennas well placed to generate creative solutions, unpublished and just tailored to our special family. This will give you the strength to confront any social obstacle for being a single mom, but also to demonstrate to your child that you are building your own life yourself.
Resilient and constructive mom- self-confident and positive child in life
The Spanish Mireya Posada, who was abandoned by her partner when she learned of her pregnancy, wrote a book and gives motivational talks about it. She states that “single mothers should let go of adverse feelings and think that at the end of the day, they were left with the best part: their little angels!”.
And he adds that having a partner does not guarantee that a mother has less work, better company or more solvency. “There are perfectly married women who live disrespect, heartbreak and stagnation.” On the other hand, a full single mother, proud and without complexes, has the autonomy and motivation necessary to transform her circumstance into a formidable energy that allows her to turn stories of suffering around, so that, hand in hand with her children, she can write her own great success story as a solo mom.